Chapter 13 of Waking Up White: and finding myself in the story of RACE by Debbie Irving
Have you ever had anyone doubt, dismiss, or minimalize an experience that was formative for you? How did it feel? How did it affect your feelings about that person?
There have been a lot of times this has happened. (Having lived in so many different areas and in so many different contexts, my opinions and outlook are often minimized or discounted). These experiences further enhanced my natural tendency to withdraw. I’m an introvert, and, after things like this happened to me several times in a new situation, I would take the easy way out and just stay home. I, for sure, became reticent to express my opinions, especially if they went against the prevailing opinions of the group. It has only been in the past couple of years that I have decided that I’m old enough and ugly enough to be able to think for myself, instead of kowtowing to group-think.
If you would like to join me as I blog about my experiences with race, please read the book. It was life changing for me.